Some Wise Words for Men

I found this interesting and insightful, got this from Quera. 
Direct link: http://qr.ae/RPMFVc.

MAN RULES:

1. Have principles that you are willing to stand up for. A man who stands for nothing falls for everything.
2. Forgive those who have offended you. A better revenge is to take the higher moral ground. The best revenge is to live well.
3. Forgive those who have hurt you, after you see them hanging.
4. Every aggression should be punished threefold: once for the act, once for the insolence, and once for deterrence.
5. If you are not strong, do not fight for honor’s sake. If you are, do not fight, unless it is in defense. The best fight is the one that never happened.
6. Life is the sum of choices and consequences. If you make the choice, you choose the consequence.
7. Do not suffer fools gladly.
8. Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting their own battles.
9. Trust is earned. Respect is commanded, not demanded.
10. Do not make a threat or a promise that you do not intend on carrying out on. A man is as good as his word.
11. Your word is your bond.
12. Be whom you wish to seem. The substance should match the form.
13. Be the Michelangelo of your own David.
14. Do not marry before 30.
15. Learn how women think differently from men. It will not only help you know yourself, but save you countless anxiety about the unknown.
16. Seduce women properly or do not seduce them at all. Half-heartedness is fatal in romance.
17. She is a citadel that you are laying siege on, so be the general to whom fortresses succumb.
18. Bad boys are sexy to girls. Gentlemen are irresistible to women.
19. If in doubt, kiss the girl.
20. Watch her family. If you believe that she is the apple that fell far from the tree, life will teach you to reconsider.
21. There is one set of skills needed to seduce a girl and another to keep her. Know both.
22. Even in matters of the heart, do not abandon your lucidity. We often become most vulnerable to those who profess their love to us.
23. Love is like an orchid garden – it requires an exact set of conditions and mixture of elements or the flowers will wither away. Be a constant gardener.
24. Do not think of any other women when you are in bed with her. If you do, replace any thought immediately with thoughts of her.
25. Having a peaceful home is more important than being right.
26. You are the provider – don’t take her word too seriously if she tries to convince you otherwise. Have respect for feminism, but remember that it didn't cancel evolution.
27. She expects you to lead.
28. Having your heart broken should teach you that you can survive it. Ending a relationship should teach you that you can survive the guilt.
29. When it comes to ex-girlfriends, never go back to what you've left behind.
30. Have one marketable skill that will forever serve you in hard times.
31. Employment you take when you want to learn about an industry at someone else risk.
32. Find out what you enjoy and then make it your life’s work. You are bound to be successful if your heart is in it.
33. The only good risk is a calculated risk. Learn how to calculate risk.
34. Failure is only failure if you learned nothing from it. If you did, consider yourself as investing in your education.
35. Your new position should be an upgrade on your previous position.
36. Be the founder investors love and competitors fear.
37. Always grow the family estate.
38. You never own your patrimony. You merely keep it safe for the next generation.
39. Things should pay for themselves.
40. Capital amounts are for capital investments.  Income is for daily expenditures.
41. If you have to choose, rather regret the things you’ve done than the things you haven’t done.
42. Get things out of your system if you have to – it will make you a better man.
43. When getting things out of your system, remember the long arm of the law.
44. Everything is good in moderation, including moderation. Know your limits.
45. If in doubt, err on the side of caution. There are reasons why women live longer.
46. Discretion is the better part of valor.
47. Play a sport that you can play well into your retirement.
48. A man knows how to ride a horse, use a firearm, play tennis, and swim.
49. Always carry a Swiss Army knife.
50. Live below your means.
51. Only your banker and accountant should know what your means are and this is only because you cannot be discreet about it with them.
52. How a man spends his money is at least as important as how he earns it.
53. Friends are the family nature never gave you.
54. You are the weighted average of your five closest friends.
55. Always make time for people who make time for you.
56. You never have the time until you make the time.
57. Being oh-so-constantly busy is so-oh-last season. Being organized is the new black.
58. A man is judged by his club, but don't assume that the man from the bowls club is a lesser man.
59. They greet you by your clothes. You should look equally good in jeans and loafers as you do in a dinner jacket.
60. Buy a dinner jacket before you are 30. Stay that size.
61. A man should know how to tie a bow-tie.
62. You can have suits in any color, so long as that color is charcoal, grey, or navy. Add pinstripes later, if you have to.
63. A gentleman looks good even when he is naked.
64. The only person you should compare yourself to is your former self.
65. A man should know how to dine with kings and how to enjoy a pint with the common man.
66. Adversity will test your character, but success will reveal your true self.
67. Only tossers are mean to the waiter.
68. If you have known a man for longer than 24 hours, his sister, ex, and female friends are out of bounds.
69. Never stop learning. There's a reason why the houses of accomplished men have big libraries while other houses have television as the centerpiece.
70. You have reached wisdom when you are man enough to admit that the only thing you truly know is how much you still don't know.
71. Only teenagers and posers know everything.
72. Just because someone is an idiot doesn't mean they're always wrong. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
73. When you walk into a room, own it.
74. Art is what separates us from other primates.
75. When buying art, do not go for what is fashionable. Buy what resonates with you.
76. Always bring a bottle of something to the party.
77. Do not go to parties you have not been invited to. Sometimes, avoid parties you have been invited to.
78. Never lose the ability to laugh at yourself. You might miss out on the joke of the century.
79. He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.
80. Always remember: rules are for the obedience of fools and for the guidance of wise men.
81. A wise man listens to his own counsel.

What Advice Would You Give to Your Younger Self?

I found this Quora article is so insightful. Written by Abhinav Shahi.
There are also other good answers but I just want to quote this one.

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If I have to give advice to my younger self then I would tell him a lot of things:

• Be careful with how you define your identity. Some people define themselves by their work, or their religion etc. But remember the words of Camus, "A reason to live can quickly become a reason to die".
• The only person you have a right to judge is yourself. So stop judging others and start minding your own work.
• Learn to let go of friends/lovers who're not as enthused by the relationship you think you share. Walk away from a relationship if you have to keep putting in all the effort for it to stay afloat.
• Never complain about too many things. Always remember - the life that you are living now is still a dream of millions and you will also want it back tomorrow.
• Give an effort and try to put a curb on all negative thoughts. After all, we are nothing but a product of our thoughts.
• Realize that nobody cares, and if they do, you shouldn't care that they care.
• Hug your Mom/Dad and say, "I love you so much!": They will be so confused. Then they'll be happy and then they will ask, "What do you want this time?" or maybe, "What did you do this time?"
• Happiness and Success are two different things.
• Better to put your heart on the line, risk everything, and walk away with nothing than play it safe. Life is a lot of things, but “safe” isn't one of them.
• You will never gain anyone's approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.

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Link to original source as below.
http://www.quora.com/What-advice-would-you-give-to-your-younger-self

Review Terminal Wisata Grafika Cikole

Mungkin agak sedikit telat reviewnya karena saya ke Grafika Cikolenya di pertengahan Juni 2015. Cuma mumpung masih ingat saya tulis saja reviewnya berikut ini.

Pengantar
Pertama-tama apabila mau menginap disini harus booking dari jauh-jauh hari, minimal 1 bulan dimuka supaya aman. Sebagai informasi, nomornya agak sulit dihubungi, tetapi setelah beberapa kali mencoba bisa nyambung juga ke landlinenya (bukan yang nomor HP).

Yang membuat tempat ini menarik, disini ada beberapa jenis tipe kamar, ada yang berupa pondokan dengan kapasitas maksimal 6 orang, pondokan kecil dengan kapasitas 4 orang, sistem tenda seperti kalau sedang camping, dan mungkin ada tipe kamar lainnya yang saya belum tahu.

Dengan variasi pondokan seperti ini jadi mengingatkan saya kepada sebuah film yang sangat melegenda, dimana di film itu ada suatu ras manusia kecil yang tinggal di rumah-rumah kecil semacam pondokan seperti ini. Film apakah itu? :-)

Di tempat ini juga ada aktifitas outdoor seperti flying fox, naik kuda, dan trekking. Cuma kalau mau ikut trekking harus bisa bangun pagi karena trekkingnya dimulai jam 6 pagi.

Setelah booking beres dengan DP 50% baru deh tenang, artinya pasti dapat kamar. Waktu itu saya booking tipe pondokan dengan kapasitas 6 orang, karena saya akan datang ber 6 bersama dengan teman-teman saya.

pondokan kapasitas 4 orang:

sistem tenda:

 pondokan kapasitas 6 orang tampak belakang:

pondokan kapasitas 6 orang tampak depan:

Hari H
Setelah tiba hari H, kami berangkat pagi jam 6 dari Jakarta menuju Bandung, sampai di Bandung sekitar jam 9.30 dengan sedikit macet. Sambil menunggu waktu checkin jam 2 siang, kami mencoba berbagai macam menu kuliner di Bandung, setelah itu barulah kami menuju ke Grafika Cikole, sampai ke Grafika Cikole sekitar jam 7 malam.
Tempat ini cukup jauh dari kota Bandung, ke arah Lembang masih terus lagi agak jauh sampai ke Cikole. Perjalanan dari kota Bandung ke Grafika Cikole sekitar 1 jam.
Apabila dari arah Bandung, Grafika Cikole terletak di kiri jalan, ada plangnya cukup besar.

Begitu sampai disini, aroma liburan dan nuansa alam segera terasa yang memberikan suatu kesan dan perasaan yang sangat menyenangkan. Segera kami checkin di resepsionis dan setelah itu diantar ke pondokan tempat kami menginap. Dari resepsionis ke pondokan jalan cukup jauh sekitar 5 menit. Oh iya, ada welcome drink berupa strawberry smoothies, terasa sekali strawberrynya.

Pondokan
Di luar dugaan kami, pondokannya rapi dan bersih, dengan nuansa kayu dan lampu yang temaram memberikan nuansa hangat dan santai.
Ranjang ukuran king size sebanyak 3 buah disusun secara memanjang, di depannya ada meja kayu panjang, diatasnya ada dispenser air panas, lalu ada TV LCD ukuran 32 inch yang dipasang di tembok.
Jadi jangan lupa membawa kopi instan / teh, karena minum kopi / teh panas sambil bersantai pada suasana dingin rasanya sungguh luar biasa, menambah nikmat kopinya beberapa kali lipat.
Sebagai nilai tambah, disediakan pula seperangkat alat mandi berupa sikat gigi dan odol serta sabun. Kamar mandinya menggunakan shower dan ada air panasnya.
Nah yang membuat pondokan ini semakin menarik yaitu pondokan ini memiliki balkon dimana kita bisa duduk santai sambil menikmati pemandangan alam.

 pemandangan dari balkon 1:

 pemandangan dari balkon 2:

Next Day
Keesokan harinya, pagi-pagi kami sarapan dulu di tempat yang sudah disediakan. Makanannya enak, ada bubur, soto ayam, sosis goreng, nugget, custome made omelet, dan pancake.
Setelah sarapan kami menghabiskan waktu dengan jalan-jalan di hutan di sekitaran komplek Grafika Cikole. Tak terasa waktu menunjukan pukul 11 yang mana kami harus bersiap-siap untuk packing karena waktu check out adalah jam 12 siang.

suasana di pagi hari :

  hutannya dibalik pagar kayu seperti di gambar ini:

 

hati-hati di hutan suka ada yang ngintip dari balik pohon seperti gambar ini:

Informasi kontak Terminal Wisata Grafika Cikole dapat dilihat di website resminya http://grafikacikole.com/.

Akhir kata tempat ini sangat saya rekomendasikan untuk liburan, demikian review dari saya semoga dapat memberikan inspirasi bagi teman-teman sekalian.