Some Wise Words for Men

I found this interesting and insightful, got this from Quera. 
Direct link: http://qr.ae/RPMFVc.

MAN RULES:

1. Have principles that you are willing to stand up for. A man who stands for nothing falls for everything.
2. Forgive those who have offended you. A better revenge is to take the higher moral ground. The best revenge is to live well.
3. Forgive those who have hurt you, after you see them hanging.
4. Every aggression should be punished threefold: once for the act, once for the insolence, and once for deterrence.
5. If you are not strong, do not fight for honor’s sake. If you are, do not fight, unless it is in defense. The best fight is the one that never happened.
6. Life is the sum of choices and consequences. If you make the choice, you choose the consequence.
7. Do not suffer fools gladly.
8. Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting their own battles.
9. Trust is earned. Respect is commanded, not demanded.
10. Do not make a threat or a promise that you do not intend on carrying out on. A man is as good as his word.
11. Your word is your bond.
12. Be whom you wish to seem. The substance should match the form.
13. Be the Michelangelo of your own David.
14. Do not marry before 30.
15. Learn how women think differently from men. It will not only help you know yourself, but save you countless anxiety about the unknown.
16. Seduce women properly or do not seduce them at all. Half-heartedness is fatal in romance.
17. She is a citadel that you are laying siege on, so be the general to whom fortresses succumb.
18. Bad boys are sexy to girls. Gentlemen are irresistible to women.
19. If in doubt, kiss the girl.
20. Watch her family. If you believe that she is the apple that fell far from the tree, life will teach you to reconsider.
21. There is one set of skills needed to seduce a girl and another to keep her. Know both.
22. Even in matters of the heart, do not abandon your lucidity. We often become most vulnerable to those who profess their love to us.
23. Love is like an orchid garden – it requires an exact set of conditions and mixture of elements or the flowers will wither away. Be a constant gardener.
24. Do not think of any other women when you are in bed with her. If you do, replace any thought immediately with thoughts of her.
25. Having a peaceful home is more important than being right.
26. You are the provider – don’t take her word too seriously if she tries to convince you otherwise. Have respect for feminism, but remember that it didn't cancel evolution.
27. She expects you to lead.
28. Having your heart broken should teach you that you can survive it. Ending a relationship should teach you that you can survive the guilt.
29. When it comes to ex-girlfriends, never go back to what you've left behind.
30. Have one marketable skill that will forever serve you in hard times.
31. Employment you take when you want to learn about an industry at someone else risk.
32. Find out what you enjoy and then make it your life’s work. You are bound to be successful if your heart is in it.
33. The only good risk is a calculated risk. Learn how to calculate risk.
34. Failure is only failure if you learned nothing from it. If you did, consider yourself as investing in your education.
35. Your new position should be an upgrade on your previous position.
36. Be the founder investors love and competitors fear.
37. Always grow the family estate.
38. You never own your patrimony. You merely keep it safe for the next generation.
39. Things should pay for themselves.
40. Capital amounts are for capital investments.  Income is for daily expenditures.
41. If you have to choose, rather regret the things you’ve done than the things you haven’t done.
42. Get things out of your system if you have to – it will make you a better man.
43. When getting things out of your system, remember the long arm of the law.
44. Everything is good in moderation, including moderation. Know your limits.
45. If in doubt, err on the side of caution. There are reasons why women live longer.
46. Discretion is the better part of valor.
47. Play a sport that you can play well into your retirement.
48. A man knows how to ride a horse, use a firearm, play tennis, and swim.
49. Always carry a Swiss Army knife.
50. Live below your means.
51. Only your banker and accountant should know what your means are and this is only because you cannot be discreet about it with them.
52. How a man spends his money is at least as important as how he earns it.
53. Friends are the family nature never gave you.
54. You are the weighted average of your five closest friends.
55. Always make time for people who make time for you.
56. You never have the time until you make the time.
57. Being oh-so-constantly busy is so-oh-last season. Being organized is the new black.
58. A man is judged by his club, but don't assume that the man from the bowls club is a lesser man.
59. They greet you by your clothes. You should look equally good in jeans and loafers as you do in a dinner jacket.
60. Buy a dinner jacket before you are 30. Stay that size.
61. A man should know how to tie a bow-tie.
62. You can have suits in any color, so long as that color is charcoal, grey, or navy. Add pinstripes later, if you have to.
63. A gentleman looks good even when he is naked.
64. The only person you should compare yourself to is your former self.
65. A man should know how to dine with kings and how to enjoy a pint with the common man.
66. Adversity will test your character, but success will reveal your true self.
67. Only tossers are mean to the waiter.
68. If you have known a man for longer than 24 hours, his sister, ex, and female friends are out of bounds.
69. Never stop learning. There's a reason why the houses of accomplished men have big libraries while other houses have television as the centerpiece.
70. You have reached wisdom when you are man enough to admit that the only thing you truly know is how much you still don't know.
71. Only teenagers and posers know everything.
72. Just because someone is an idiot doesn't mean they're always wrong. Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
73. When you walk into a room, own it.
74. Art is what separates us from other primates.
75. When buying art, do not go for what is fashionable. Buy what resonates with you.
76. Always bring a bottle of something to the party.
77. Do not go to parties you have not been invited to. Sometimes, avoid parties you have been invited to.
78. Never lose the ability to laugh at yourself. You might miss out on the joke of the century.
79. He who has a why to live for can bear with almost any how.
80. Always remember: rules are for the obedience of fools and for the guidance of wise men.
81. A wise man listens to his own counsel.

What Advice Would You Give to Your Younger Self?

I found this Quora article is so insightful. Written by Abhinav Shahi.
There are also other good answers but I just want to quote this one.

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If I have to give advice to my younger self then I would tell him a lot of things:

• Be careful with how you define your identity. Some people define themselves by their work, or their religion etc. But remember the words of Camus, "A reason to live can quickly become a reason to die".
• The only person you have a right to judge is yourself. So stop judging others and start minding your own work.
• Learn to let go of friends/lovers who're not as enthused by the relationship you think you share. Walk away from a relationship if you have to keep putting in all the effort for it to stay afloat.
• Never complain about too many things. Always remember - the life that you are living now is still a dream of millions and you will also want it back tomorrow.
• Give an effort and try to put a curb on all negative thoughts. After all, we are nothing but a product of our thoughts.
• Realize that nobody cares, and if they do, you shouldn't care that they care.
• Hug your Mom/Dad and say, "I love you so much!": They will be so confused. Then they'll be happy and then they will ask, "What do you want this time?" or maybe, "What did you do this time?"
• Happiness and Success are two different things.
• Better to put your heart on the line, risk everything, and walk away with nothing than play it safe. Life is a lot of things, but “safe” isn't one of them.
• You will never gain anyone's approval by begging for it. When you stand confident in your own worth, respect follows.

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Link to original source as below.
http://www.quora.com/What-advice-would-you-give-to-your-younger-self

9 Tehnik Untuk Berhenti Berpikir Negatif

Artikel ini adalah saya salin dari catatan kecil saya yang berisi artikel-artikel yang menurut saya menarik dan memotivasi, saya lupa dari buku mana tepatnya artikel ini, seingat saya dari salah satu buku karangan Dale Carnegie. Monggo.

1. Hidup saat ini.
Memikirkan masa lalu / masa depan adalah hal yang sering membuat kita cemas. Jarang sekali kita panik karena kejadian masa sekarang. Jika Anda menemukan pikiran Anda terkurung dalam apa yang telah terjadi atau apa yang belum terjadi, ingatlah bahwa hanya masa kini yang dapat kita kontrol.

2. Katakanlah hal positif pada diri sendiri.
Katakan pada diri Anda bahwa Anda kuat. Anda mampu. Ucapkan hal tersebut terus-menerus, kapanpun. Terutama, mulailah hari dengan mengatakan hal positif tentang diri sendiri dan hari itu, tidak peduli jika hari itu Anda harus mengambil keputusan sulit ataupun Anda tidak mempercayai apa yang telah Anda katakan pada diri sendiri.

3. Percaya pada kekuatan pikiran positif.
Jika Anda berpikir positif, hal-hal positif akan datang dan kesulitan-kesulitan akan terasa lebih ringan. Begitu juga sebaliknya jika Anda berpikiran negatif. Hal-hal ini adalah hukum universal, seperti layaknya hukum gravitasi / pertukaran energi. Tidak akan mudah untuk mengubah pola pikir Anda, namun usahanya sebanding dengan hasil yang akan Anda petik.

4. Jangan berdiam diri.
Telusuri apa yang membuat Anda berpikiran negatif, perbaiki, dan kembali maju. Jika hal tersebut tidak bisa diperbaiki lagi, berhenti mengeluh dan menyesal karena hal itu hanya akan menguras waktu dan energi Anda, juga membuat Anda merasa lebih buruk. Terimalah apa yang terjadi, petik hikmah atau pelajaran dari hal tersebut dan kembali maju.

5. Fokus pada hal-hal positif.
Ketika kita sedang berpikiran negatif, seringkali kita lupa akan yang kita miliki dan lebih berfokus pada apa yang tidak kita miliki. Buatlah sebuah jurnal rasa syukur. Tidak masalah waktunya, tiap hari tulislah lima sampai enam hal positif yang terjadi pada hari tersebut. Hal positif itu bisa berupa hal-hal besar ataupun sekedar hal-hal kecil seperti "hari ini cerah" atau "makan sore hari ini menakjubkan". Selama Anda tetap konsisten melakukan kegiatan ini, hal ini mampu mengubah pemikiran negatif Anda menjadi suatu pemikiran positif. Dan ketika Anda mulai merasa berpikiran negatif, baca kembali jurnal tersebut.

6. Bergeraklah.
Berolahraga melepaskan endorphin yang mampu membuat perasaan Anda menjadi lebih baik. Apakah itu sekedar berjalan mengelilingi blok ataupun berlari sepuluh kilometer, aktifitas fisik akan membuat diri kita merasa lebih baik. Ketika Anda merasa down, aktifitas olah raga 15 menit dapat membuat Anda merasa lebih baik.

7. Hadapi rasa takutmu.
Perasaan negatif muncul dari rasa takut, makin takut Anda akan hidup, makin banyak pikiran negatif dalam diri Anda. Jika Anda takut akan sesuatu, lakukan sesuatu itu. Rasa takut adalah bagian dari hidup namun kita memiliki pilihan untuk tidak membiarkan rasa takut menghentikan kita.

8. Coba hal-hal baru.
Mencoba hal-hal baru juga dapat meningkatkan rasa percaya diri. Dengan mengatakan ya pada kehidupan, Anda membuka lebih banyak kesempatan untuk bertumbuh. Jauhi pikiran "ya, tapi...". Pengalaman baru, kecil ataupun besar membuat hidup terasa lebih menyenangkan dan berguna.

9. Ubah cara pandang.
Ketika seusatu tidak berjalan dengan baik, cari cara untuk melihat hal tersebut dari sudut pandang yang lebih postif. Dalam setiap tantangan terdapat keuntungan, dalam setiap keuntungan terdapat tantangan.